Choosing to be Strong

Another day, another MySpace bulletin from Evan Tanner. Here's the latest:

Not a victim

October 2, 2007

6:29 pm

What I would like to do is set up a forum on my website, where those who want to be a part of this journey, can sign up and exchange ideas, and maybe help each other out a little. I would like for this forum to be private sot can't be viewed unless someone is a member. I would also like to set up a blog which allows comments. I would like to be able to tell the story of my struggles, and give everyone the chance to tell theirs. I want to set up a place where people can help each other make changes. I don't like the idea of AA, or rehab, etc. where a person is brainwashed into accepting the label of loser, that they have a disease, that it's not their fault, whatever. They carry that with them the rest of their life. I want to set up a place where someone can come, and just admit that they have some bad habits, maybe do too much of something, drinking, drugs, smoking. eating, etc. It's not a disease or a genetic defect. Some are weaker for certain vices, but we have free will, we make our own choice everyday.

I want a place where people can choose to be strong, choose to have courage to change some bad habits, and be proud of themselves the rest of their lives. The support system is important though. We are social animals and we all need friends. We need that connection and understanding. I'm willing to tell my story of my weakness, tell my story and face the embarrassment, the media articles, the ridicule. I would like to let those who are struggling know they are not alone. I’m not a victim. I take full responsibility for what I’ve done and where I am in life. I don’t feel sorry for myself, so don’t feel sorry for me either. I just thought telling my story, baring my ass to the world, might help someone, even if it’s only one.

My web designer doesn't really have the resources at the moment to get all of that set up. He's helped me out so much. I owe him a lot. He's the reason my website even exists. So for this adventure we're about to start, we're going to have to use myspace for now.